Today on the blog I want to chat a little about how important it is to continue to date your partner after you are engaged. Let’s be honest, once that question is popped and you have said “Yes” most of your attention goes to wedding planning mode and you tend to live on Pinterest. Hey, I get it, it is an exciting time and it is FINALLY your turn. But one thing I see a lot with my engaged couples is they are so laser-focused on planning a wedding that they forgot why they are able to do it in the first place.
I want you to think back to when you and your partner first met and started to date. It was exciting and you both were putting in the effort to really get to know each other. That is what ultimately led you to become engaged. You both found the love you have been looking for and have decided to take your commitment to the next level by getting married. But that doesn’t mean that you stop dating each other. The funny thing is one of the biggest pieces of advice you get at your wedding is to never stop dating each other. I hear it at almost every single wedding I attend. Now I am here to tell you that you need to make it a priority when you are engaged.
Wedding planning is hard. The average couple can spend 200-300 hours planning their wedding from start to finish. You are adding that on top of your normal life responsibilities and job, which can really put a strain on things as you feel the pressure of getting everything done by a certain date. You have to make sure that you remember why you are there in the first place and lean on your partner for support and take breaks as needed, a.k.a DATE EACH OTHER. Go for a hike, cook a meal together, go to the movies, whatever it is you both like to do together, do those things, and hold on to those moments. Those are what you will look back on and what will cause you to have an amazing engagement. Keep each other as your priority. Take care of each other. And guys, (not always, but a good amount of the time) help them with making decisions. I know for a lot of men that just want to be told when to be there and where to stand, but you both are in this together. If it is important to your partner then you should make it a priority to help, even if it’s not your first choice. Making wedding planning decisions together is also good practice in communicating with each other and compromising. And marriage is all about communication and compromise. You are joining your life with another and there will be a lot of bumps along the way, but if you can work together, remember your priorities, and never stop dating each other then you will set up for a pretty successful marriage.
And if you find yourself coming down with decision fatigue (trust me it is a real thing with wedding planning), give us a call and we can show you how we can help. Our goal is to make sure you enjoy being engaged and make the wedding day smooth and stress-free. Check out our services here and contact us here if you have any questions. Happy Planning!